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2. Passwords, Instant Message
“Buddy Lists” Internet Email, Accounts And Emails Are Concealed
Even Protected From You! Do
you find your spouse needing his “own space” at the computer?
Is there a real reluctance when you ask to know his passwords?
What’s there to hide? These questions all have obvious answers.
The act of hiding information is deceptive by nature. Of course,
those of us who have worked in “Corporate America” understand
the need to protect company secrets. But what legitimate “family
secret” are we hiding? Listen, any time a spouse becomes secretive
with you, it fulfills a direct need they demonstrate. Why?
You are like the judge, referee, or source of authority creating
that “sense of accountability” over them. Furthermore, they
are breaking matrimonial law if committing adultery. There
is, in many courts, a price to pay!
3. Computer use after
you have gone to bed, when you fall asleep or in the middle
of the night. Have you been
awaken by the absence of your spouse at night and found him
at the computer? If this behavior becomes a pattern you certainly
need to be concerned. While work demands a sense of commitment
and loyalty, working late repeatedly after you have fallen
asleep is a little odd.
4. Your partner abruptly
shuts off the internet and/or computer when you approach.
This is panic and unexplainable behavior.
The rationalization is “when all other contingency plans fail,
just shut that thing off and don’t get caught.” This foolish
act is also called a “computer crash” and has the potential
of damaging both hardware and software. The loss of files
occurs when a computer is cut off abruptly. Many spouses have
reported this behavior just prior to hiring us. We consider
it a significant indicator of a deviant behavior. Now, bear
in mind your spouse may be viewing pornography and fear reprisal.
This may explain the need for panic.
5. The computer and
monitor are always positioned away from your sight.
The study of body language has become useful
to many investigators, especially those of us who administer
lie detection examinations. An obvious sign of deception and
a common mistake the cheater make is blocking your view. They
need the time to clear a screen, turn off the monitor, or
change to another internet page when threatened with exposure.
Intentionally turning the monitor or laptop away from view
is an indicator they don’t want you to see something. Over
time this act develops into a habit and confers greater freedom
from detection. In most instances, having the lead time to
hide the truth from you is all they need.
6. Clears all internet
history after chat sessions, usage or installs software to
automatically rid this information. There
are times when a computer becomes filled with unwanted files.
Computers run faster when less “temporary” files use up valuable
“ram memory.” This is prudent maintenance for any computer
user. What I am referring to in this sign is the repeated
habit of purposefully clearing information from discovery.
While this information is retrievable through the science
of Computer Forensics, you won’t find it readily available.
On the market now is software that actually helps the cheater.
The actual purpose of this new software tool is to hide any
trace of computer internet usage. Do you find this a little
suspicious? I do.
7. Exhibits a compulsive need
to be online and seems defensive when confronted to stop.
"When are you coming to bed?” “We really
need to go, now, what’s taking so long?" “Can’t you do that
later?” Have you asked these types of questions? Teenagers
often become “obsessed” with instant messaging. If you have
kids who use the computer, you know. They have trouble walking
away from the PC. This same desire or need displayed by your
spouse is cause for alarm. A compulsive, defensive pattern
of behavior shows a strong need to continue. You need to know
why.
8. Shares personal information,
photos or events with strangers in emails, chatrooms or while
instant messaging. Setting up
a profile for instant messaging is commonplace. Kids love
to fill them up and share with friends on the buddy list.
I’ve witnessed spouses who send nude pictures of themselves
over the internet. They share very personal information that
should be reserved to the marital home. Maybe it’s time to
track this information with software that collects this data.
Today more courts are allowing emails and computer usage data
as evidence. It’s advisable to consult an attorney in your
state beforehand!
9. Plays online games and
frequents "personals" chatrooms. This
is where it starts. Play a few games, win or loss but then
we need to chat. Well if chatting is fine, why not include
your spouse? You can’t, so why do it?
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